Sarahritchie17 Posting a day later than normal because this President’s Day Weekend, I was so blessed and excited to host 4 of my best friends for a Mardi Gras reunion. We hadn’t all been in the same room since 2017, and they flew in from all corners of the country. It was a jam-packed weekend, and I only just now got a second to finish up this post.
Anyways, in honor of Valentine’s Day, I wanted to write a post for the years in the past that I didn’t have people flying in from all over to bring me roses, gifts, love, and most importantly their presence. This year I am in a wonderful relationship with someone I love and who loves me dearly, but I have also celebrated past years as singles appreciation day and galentine’s day. So I wanted to write this post for anyone who is single right now. This is an open letter to a single version of myself or someone who is in their 20’s and not in a relationship this Valentine’s Day.
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My dear,
You are so beautifully and wonderfully created, and you have so much untapped potential. The world is at your fingertips, and you have so many incredible opportunities. Chase your dreams and the things that light your heart on fire, and everything else will fall into place.
There are days being single when you feel like everyone else is in love or that you’ll someday die alone. Those days suck. There’s no sugar-coating it. But they’re also lies.
Oh, my love, you are so loved already. Your family, your friends, your pet feel so incredibly blessed to just have you in their life. AND there are people that notice you and admire you that you don’t even know!
Your best friend thinks the world of you and that you deserve all the most wonderful things in life. He or she thinks so highly of you—more than you know and admires and respects you and would tell you that you deserve someone better than any ex you have because there’s literally no one good enough for you.
But eventually, maybe one will come along that is good enough. And they’ll love you and respect you and think so highly of you. They’ll be on the same page and they’ll give you their time and energy. They’ll want to be the best version of themself for you and they will strive every day to be worthy of your love.
But you have to be ready for that person to come into your life. You need to be confident and thriving on your own. You need to be independent. You need to be proud of your own lifestyle and decisions. You have to realize that you’ve learned something from every relationship you’ve been in. You have to know who you are and how your life experiences have shaped you into that person. You need to be striving to be a better version of yourself every day for YOU. You need to love yourself and know that you are awesome regardless of if you’re in a relationship or single. You need to be able to take yourself out and you need to go on some of your own adventures.
Set your standards (high) and then try to achieve them yourself.
Know this:
You have been loved before, you are loved now, and you will be loved again.
You are capable of loving, you have so much love to give, and you are so worthy of love.
Please realize today and every day that you are more than enough. Come as you are and you will be loved by the people who matter. Stay true to yourself, don’t ever lower your standards, and be unapologetic for things out of your control. Life will happen as it’s meant to. This beautiful crazy life is happening for you. Believe in bigger love and know that you deserve nothing less.
I have been single and weak, and I have been single and strong. What I’ve learned is that I am most attractive when I am thriving on my own. Lean on your friends but also strive to learn how to support yourself better every day.
“You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” -A.A. Milne
Enjoy the time you have to yourself because you won’t have that forever. Do the things you want. Travel, learn, chase life. There are so many things to enjoy about the single life. Choose to look at the bright side. The grass is always greener where you water it. Look at yourself and love yourself like you’re your own secret admirer.
Happy (belated) Valentine’s Day.
<3 Sarah
